"Thank you Auntie"
Said Tu, a 13 year old
boy, after he was given milk and a small amount of money (by the Brockport program house). When he shyly spoke to me, I
looked over at My Hoa, my resident director,
and was told that I was called auntie.
While on an errand with
a neighbor, Tu had a horrifying accident.
Tu was only 9 years old
when he was hit by a train.
The neighbor died.
Tu spent a year and a
half in the hospital. He arrived home with a metal plate in the top of his
head, and a learning deficiency. He missed over a year of school and so
was behind. Since the accident he has only progressed to the 5th grade.
This year Tu refuses to
go to school. He cannot bear sitting in the classroom any longer with children
that are much younger than him.
To make matters worse, a
few years ago Tu had a stroke, leaving the left side of his body paralyzed.
He occasionally suffers
from epilepsy.
In addition Tu had to
have his metal plate removed from his head which he outgrew. So at the moment
Tu just has a soft spot in his head... his mother has to be careful with Tu, if
he falls down there could be terrible consequences.
Tu's mind functions as
it should, but he cannot progress in his education. I can see the sadness in
his eyes when his mother told me this. I can only imagine the frustration
inside him. He is a bright and handsome boy, but he feels weak and slow.
Tu was studying English
before the accident. I turn to him and said "hello, how are you?" and Tu repeats
what I said clearly and proficiently, bringing a smile to my face and his
as well.
When Tsunami season arrive the house floods. The water reaches the clock on the wall. |
He wants to learn. He
wants to.
Tu’s family lives in a
humble home made from scraps of wood and metal that the community gave them.
Their home gets drenched when it rains, and when tsunami season arrives they
live in their neighbor’s homes. They are very poor and if the father is lucky
and finds an odd job, he may bring home ten dollars.
The house is made out of random scraps. It does not offer much protection from the elements. |
Tu needs an operation to
insert a new metal plate but the government health system only pays a certain
amount. It is too expensive. Tu needs physical therapy and rehabilitation, but
Tu’s parents can not afford transportation.
I wish I was a better
writer so that I could make you feel the desperation Tu must feel, and the
helplessness that I am filled with.
Tu and his mother. Tu's left side is paralyzed so he has difficulty walking. |
How horrible it must
feel to have a mature mentality but have a learning deficiency? How
terrible it must feel to see other boys your age run around, while you must be
careful not to fall? How sad it must feel to have dreams, but find them beyond
your reach?
Once again, a long blog,
but I can not help but share as much about each person as possible. Thank you
for your time!
It funny how most people in America neglect all the wonderful services that are given to them on a daily basis. A great educational system is given for free, they are taught a second language in these educational institutions yet dont take it seriously. People in accidents will be taken care of with or without insurance, and most of the time the government will pay off the hospital bills. Yet instead of saying "I'm so lucky to have this plate in my head", the main concerns are "that crash really messed me up, how can I afford a nose job." People have their priorities mixed up and looking in on the outside through this young boys eyes it makes that very clear. You write so thoroughly i could practically feel what he is going through. Dont you ever downplay your writing because you feel some people wont feel it as you mean it, you will always have an audience that will feel every word you say and all your experiences will touch their hearts. #amazingwritter#readingyourbooksinthefuture
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Sometimes we do take a lot of granted. I am learning this, and feel so lucky. Thank you for your words, i am very flattered! Thank you again for your support!
DeleteThese are the kinds of things we don't really pay much attention to when counting our blessings. As we go about our daily lives taking things for granted, there are others that must carefully think of their every move as if it may be the last. Is there any way I can help?
ReplyDeleteI know this will be a great experience for you Carol and that you will deeply impact each person's life. Can't wait to read more about your experience.
You have helped a lot already by telling people about my blog, i really appreciate it. I am currently looking into how much Tu's operation would cost. They say that it cost a lot, but what is a lot to them may not be a staggering price to the average american
DeleteFYI, the name Hien means being lenient/meek and Tu, talented/good.
ReplyDeleteThank you for posting this. I can see how these names may relate to them in a way. Thank you for sharing this with others. I would love to learn what the names of the rest of the people i meet mean!
DeleteThis is such a beautiful piece. I am sure with your compassion and astute perception you will find a way to spread the word to assist Tu in finding what he will need to fulfill his dreams and aspirations.
ReplyDeletehey, u know I don't like to read...but I just finished reading your blog, excellent job
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